10 questions to ask before dating

29 Aug

Spouses who appeared to have a clear and respectful understanding of one another's roles and tasks, in contrast, did not spend as much time negotiating responsibilities; their daily lives seemed to flow more smoothly." Van Driver1 writes, "It may not be a deal breaker in regards to getting married but A k surprise after the wedding is not something you need to deal with." An honest conversation about finances — especially about debt — is key before getting married, or even getting serious.As Business Insider reported, lying about your debt can potentially destroy your relationship.In his book "The All-or-Nothing Marriage," Eli Finkel, a psychologist at Northwestern University and a professor at the Kellogg School of Management, recommends asking less of your marriage as a way to strengthen it.For example, maybe your partner doesn't crave late-night philosophical debates the way you do; maybe a friend does.When I was dating I remember constantly being smothered with that giant question like a bloated bear was sitting on my head, refusing to move. To magically stumble upon like finding the gold at the end of a rainbow that is being carried by a unicorn with leprechaun jockey.But how are you supposed to know which one is the right one?

"Some people feel the expectations are different when you're married than when you're dating, and others feel that they are the same," says evelynrae.

Over on Reddit, there's a thread titled, "What questions should everyone ask their partners before getting married?

" Most of the questions apply to couples starting to get serious, and not just couples heading to the altar. It's best to address the topic of parenthood sooner than later, so no one winds up resentful — or heartbroken — years down the line.

Still, it's important to discuss how you'll change and grow together if you're planning to get married, as well as what you're afraid of and excited about.

Unfortunately, some of us get into relationships without even knowing we are doing so.