Too ugly for online dating

01 May

It’s important to emphasize that no one can say my singlehood is because I haven’t put myself “out there.” I’ve been on online dating sites and apps for 11 years — and only first dates with three men to show for it.

All the while, I’ve also been attending countless events, parties, gatherings, etc. As I try to break down the different factors that might contribute to my near-lifelong involuntary singlehood, the first thing that comes to mind is looks.

One’s relationship status is one of the most private things people tend to consider “fair game” to base very personal judgments and assumptions about our value as human beings on.

But as terrifying as it is, I know this vulnerability is worth it.

If they’re not interested, at least you’ll know – and you can move on to the next date.

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Today’s rules are a little more user-friendly – but some of them may surprise you. Many profiles on dating websites start with statements like: “I’m no good at this kind of thing”. If you put yourself down, you won’t sound attractively self-effacing. The aim of the online dating game is to catch the eye of someone you have lots in common with.So I’m glad to be the “sacrificial lamb” of sorts and use my personal experience to dig into some of the microaggressions single folk face regularly.I’ll admit, though, that putting myself out there in this way is a type of vulnerability I am not used to.Most living grown-ups have a history of exes, hang-ups and maybe a nervous breakdown or two. They know that you have a past, but they don’t want to hear about it. Some online dating profiles read like shopping lists.They’re looking for someone with brown eyes, short hair, between 5’10” and 6′, from north-east Birmingham, and so on. First, they make the writer sound like a control freak.