Dating like a diva

06 Feb

SHOW APPRECIATION: When he gives you something, always acknowledge the kindness behind the gesture, not the material item itself. Extracted by Marianne Power from Why Men Marry Bitches: A Woman’s Guide To Getting And Keeping Her Man’s Heart, by Sherry Argov, published by Adams at £9.99.

A man wants more than anything to feel revered and valued.

If he can depend on you to speak your mind, he will view you as a more legitimate candidate. DON’T JUMP INTO BED: Weed out the contenders from the pretenders by assessing their attitude about waiting for sex. All you have to do is be feminine, charming and enjoyable. The less you say about it, the closer you are to getting one.

PLAY IT COOL: Behave as if you like him, but aren’t that interested in locking him down. There’s nothing more prized to a man than something he has to wait for. ’ you’ve told him the terms of the relationship are his to dictate. KEEP A BIT OF DISTANCE: Once you start getting cosy, he shouldn’t feel he can always reach you.

But at the same time they’ll pass judgment: ‘short-term only’.

When you cover up with a fitted blouse or a long skirt with a slit, he thinks ‘I have to work to get this’, and your stock goes up.

I’ve interviewed hundreds of men and all of them say what they want most is a strong woman who is secure with her own identity. But when I polled men of all ages, they all said confident women are in very short supply. The average fashion magazine tells women to act like a servant to get the perfect man: ‘Here’s a recipe to melt his heart’; ‘ten ways how to win him over in the bedroom ,’ and so on. You’d be just as turned off by a guy who brought two dozen roses to a first date and told you he felt like the luckiest man on the planet in the first five minutes. Chances are the guy wasn’t a millionaire or a brain surgeon with a six-pack. He had a couple of features that did it for you and a certain magic that made you tingle. Women think that if they are perfect, beautiful and rich, they will get the respect and love they crave.

You are making it too obvious your happiness depends on him — and there’s nothing that will make him run away faster.

As for looking perfect, interestingly, almost all the men I spoke to said they rarely pay attention to a woman’s flaws until she points them out.

Sophia Loren said: ‘Beauty is how you feel inside and it reflects in your eyes.

When a man meets a woman who seems too perfect, too sweet, or too agreeable, he tends to become bored very quickly.

A man will spot quickly that you’re putting on an act and think you’re trying to trap him or you’re insecure. He might stick around for a few months to see how high you’ll jump for him — but it’ll be temporary.