Dating and waiting for marriage

11 Feb

If we want to have and enjoy that kind of Christ-centered intimacy, we need to get married.And if we want to get married, we need to pursue clarity about whom to marry.You may be dreaming about marriage already (I was), but is it realistic that the two of you could marry anytime soon? My advice — take it or leave it — is wait until you can reasonably marry him or her in the next eighteen months. The important part is that you , if God made it clear this was his will and his timing for you.You won’t find eighteen months anywhere in the Bible, and so you should not treat it as God’s law.He brews heartbreak for breakfast, and sweetens every sexual sin with a beautiful, but poisonous glaze.Satan and his influence in and through the world leads millions of us to date too much and too early, because he loves what that kind of dating does to us.

If he wills for you to be married, he wants to make you into a strong and caring future wife or husband.

We all want our hearts to soar for someone or something. Many of us date because we’re trying to fill those needs in love.

The romance and mystery of marriage seems to hold the highest earthly peaks of pleasure and friendship. We want to contribute something significant to a meaningful cause. If you asked us, we might say we’re “pursuing marriage,” but a lot of us aren’t even close to marriage — in age, finances, maturity, education, stage of life.

Has our boyfriend or girlfriend matured enough to have any idea what they might be like as a husband or wife for the next fifty years? Will one or both of us be able to provide for a family financially?

Has his or her faith in Jesus been tested enough by trials to be confident it’s real?