Looking for a dating partner or a soul mate dating a man with kids and an ex

21 Feb

Finding your soul mate is basically finding that one person (arguably one of several) who has the right traits – traits that are relevant to you as an individual.

In other words: You have to find a person whom you can put up with and who, more importantly, can put up with you. If love isn’t much more than the way that you perceive a person, then you need to find someone who you can perceive as being amazing for as long as you live.

This is something that took me a long time to learn because, as you may have noticed, I like to argue. it’s that some battles simply aren’t worth fighting.

Moreover, most of the arguments lovers have aren’t over concrete facts, but over opinion.

What you find attractive is your preference – just make sure that he or she has a face that you’ll be happy seeing every morning for the rest of your life.

Skip the less important arguments and fight the real important ones instead. Or rather, we don’t think much about the possibility that the lives that we ourselves want to live might not line up with the life that our lover may want to live. Do you want to be incredibly rich or simply comfortable? It takes a lot of time and energy to do some of the more important things in our lives and because we are sharing our lives with another, both will likely be missing out on certain things. It can make waking up in the morning and going about our day near impossible.

The beauty of a loving relationship is that we begin to rely upon each other so much that we feel as one and the needs of our soul mate feels more like our own needs than our actual own needs.

If your partner can’t put your needs ahead of his or her own, and you can't put your partner's needs ahead of your own, then you’re likely to fail.

Of course, we can’t always be putting our partners' needs ahead of our own – we’re only human.

But, we can do our best to show them how much we love them by sacrificing our wants in order for them to meet theirs.