Dating group herpes mail

30 Jan

A true partner, a true best friend, accepts all of you.

They do not barter or keep score, or make a pros and cons list when it comes to asking you on a third date.

It’s human nature to think it, and to wonder, and to actively make the decision. But in asking me this question, an actual person with herpes, you are shaming and insulting me in the name of needing help deciding.

I don’t want to be the selfless Mother Teresa of herpes.

If my STI is a deal breaker for you, your ignorance and cowardice is a deal breaker for me.

And sometimes it’s the classic entitled bullshit I face on Twitter all the time: I’m not a jerk for dumping someone who poses a risk to my health, right? It’s just a simple question to you: should I date this person, yes or no?My first outbreak was quite painful because it coincided with an infected spider bite, but now I show symptoms so rarely that I pose no credible risk to my partners 99% of the time.In retrospect, if my ex-boyfriend had known he had herpes and told me before we started dating, I wouldn’t have done anything differently, and I would still have herpes today.On the other hand, herpes itself honestly isn’t that big of a deal for most of us.Although individual symptoms depend on your overall health and the strain you carry, for many folks herpes is an uncomfortable initial outbreak and mild recurrences, if any.