Dating rules make him pursue you

19 Jul

I've dated countless women and it has always amazed me how little they know about men.

If nothing else, this blog is an outlet for voicing my astonishment at the typical female's ignorance of the male mindset.

That relationship between a younger guy and an older woman is likely to be supercharged by a combination of the younger man’s peak sex drive and the older woman’s confidence, experience and her own sex drive.

There are some other compelling reasons for why older women are more attractive to younger guys.

Then why are you doing it for a guy who (for all you know so far) might be married or have incompatible politics?

Would you delay your response for an additional 15 minutes, or occasionally not reply at all in a text conversation with your little brother?

Yeah, sure, maybe it will mean that you occasionally seem a little over-excited to get his text (because you happen to be checking your messages when his comes in), or a bit distant (because you were ignoring your phone while studying for ten hours, and his text came in right after you started); but you will only seem so in the short term.

Unless you are months into a serious relationship, there is no way that know whether or not things will work out with this guy; so it is ridiculous to interrupt what you are doing every time your phone goes off.

So when he texts, answer him naturally, genuinely, authentically.

If you find yourself thinking "I don't feel like replying right now," or "I'll get to it later," then don't reply at all, or tell him (tactfully) that you don't want to pursue a relationship.

You probably shouldn't have given him your number in the first place. If you are really excited about the guy who is texting you, or if you are just excited to be getting any attention from a guy, you need to resist your temptation to indulge in communicating with him (anticipating his texts, reading them, replying, and anticipating the next one).

This excitement seems like a small thing; but when you are dropping everything immediately upon receiving a text notification, or constantly checking your phone just to make sure you didn't miss the latest message from him, you start to realize how much you are allowing a merely potential relationship to monopolize your priorities.